Shakira explains her approach to parenting after split from ex-husband Gerard Piqué

Shakira talks about parenting through her divorce.  (Photo: Getty Images)

Shakira talks about parenting through her divorce. (Photo: Getty Images)

Shakira opens up about her recent divorce from partner Gerard Piqué and how music has been vital for her to get through “her darkest hour” and show the best she can for her children.

The 45-year-old Colombian singer spoke with Elle on how she got through her difficult breakup, after it was announced in June that she and the Spanish footballer had called it quits, and was dealing with a resulting custody battle between the couple’s two sons, Milan, 9 and Sasha, 7 While creating new music has been a big part of Shakira’s healing journey, it’s her boys’ livelihood that she stays most focused on.

Shakira appears on the October 2022 digital cover for Elle.  (Photo: Jaume de Laiguana)

Shakira appears on the October 2022 digital cover for Elle. (Photo: Jaume de Laiguana)

“I think music is a life raft. There have been days when I had to pick up the pieces of myself off the floor. And the only way to do that, to actually do that, is through music. You know, to really, like, bring myself back together and see myself in the mirror and know that I’m a mother and my kids depend on me,” she said, noting that her career often felt like a distraction from motherhood before. “Sometimes in the past I was so scared of my job because I just wanted to be there for my kids. I mean, I just wanted to cuddle up with my kids in bed a little longer. And then I had to, like, get up and record a video and fulfill my obligations But now I am so grateful for my work, the opportunity it gives us to bring ourselves back together and realize who we are and why we are here on this planet – what is our purpose, our mission. “

Pouring herself into her craft was a good distraction from the negative press surrounding the end of her relationship. However, protecting her children from the chaos is an added challenge.

“It’s been tough, not just for me, but for my kids. Incredibly hard. I’ve got paparazzi camping outside, in front of my house, 24/7. And there’s no place I can hide from them with my kids “Except for my own house. You know, we can’t walk through the park like a regular family or go out for an ice cream or do an activity without paparazzi following us. So it’s hard,” Shakira explained. “And I’ve tried to hide the situation from my kids. I’m trying to do it and protect them because that’s my main mission in life. But then they hear things at school from their friends or come across something unpleasant , unpleasant news online, and it just hits them, you know?”

The local press in Spain, where she calls Barcelona her home, has even become “invasive on my children,” she said, as photographers have interrupted their daily lives.

“They don’t deserve to be watched or watched every second, photographed at school or followed by paparazzi. They deserve a normal life. It’s just a total circus and everyone is speculating about all these aspects of our, and more importantly, our children’s lives, and a lot of it isn’t even true,” she said. “No matter how things have ended or how Gerard and I feel about each other as ex partners, he is the father of my children. We have a job to do for these two incredible guys and I am confident we will figure out what what is best for their future, their own dreams in life, and what a fair solution is for everyone involved. And I hope and would appreciate it if we were given the space to do that in private.”

She continued: “It’s really upsetting for two kids trying to cope with their parents’ divorce. And sometimes I just feel like this is all a bad dream and I’m going to wake up at some point. But no, it is real .”

While managing her own mental well-being with this has been challenging, it is the priority she gives to her children that Shakira ultimately gets through.

“I just manage, I think, reminding myself that I have to become an example to my kids, that I have to be what they want, what I want them to be,” she said. “And I also want to be there for all the people who have shown me their love and support. That is my greatest strength. That is my most powerful engine at the moment.”

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